Monday, 6 July 2009

An Evening At A Libyan Do.....

Last night I was invited to a Fat-ha or Islamic marriage ceremony, these events are usually attended by men only. I got ready on time, put on a suit and tie even though it was a hot day but looking smart in events like this is a must, I had to stand in front of a fan for a while to stop my self from sweating then ran to my car which luckily was serviced only few days ago and the air condition was working perfectly for a change! I left a bit early in case of heavy traffic even though it was a Sunday and I am glad I did, twice I got stuck in heavy traffic and instead of the journey taking me about 35 minutes, it took me one hour and 25 minutes to get to central London and to the hotel where the event was taking place. I found a parking space easily and walked to the hotel where I found younger members of the family that are celebrating the marriage, standing outside the front door of the luxury hotel, they were there to escort the guests to the hired hall, usually I am early at events like this but as soon as I walked in the hall I noticed that most guests were already there and seated, I found a chair at the front and sat down then used my eagle eyes to scan the place, almost everyone I know was there, I must say that us Libyan men are not usually the smartest dressed men in the world but it was nice last night to see that almost everyone made an effort to look their best.

Soon I saw some of my best friends that I have known since my days in Oxford over 25 years ago, they still live in Oxford and because of this we do not meet as much as we would like to, they really are some of the best men that you could have for friends, our eyes just light up when ever we meet and we always realise at these rare occasions that we do miss each others company so much, so it was hugs and kisses all round, so nice.

The grooms father then escorted the Muslim cleric into the hall with the bride's father and the 2 witnesses and after a short speech by the cleric on the advantages of getting married, the signing of the contract took place and within few minutes the marriage was official.

The event was a bit low key because of a recent death in the family, no dinner was served but instead a selection of beautiful cakes and deserts were served along side nicely presented sandwiches, juices, coffee and tea, it was a good change from big pieces of lamb fit for a lion and huge plates of rice and masareen (a type of Libyan sausage) there were waiters and waitresses serving everyone that needed it, the waitresses were young Portuguese girls that looked quite good in their smart uniforms, I had to laugh as suddenly I started to notice the flirting that was being poured on these girls, it was all harmless and fun, watching young and not so young Libyan men flirting but without being offensive and the waitresses seemed very happy with all the attention, they looked relaxed after looking quite tense at the beginning and were talking and laughing back, even some of the more strict men and more religious were doing some of the flirting, everyone was well behaved.
The groom and his younger brother were mingling with the guests and made sure that everyone was looked after, it was a good relaxed evening that was enjoyed I would say, by all that attended, first class event.
I wish the bride and groom a happy, healthy and prosperous marriage inshaAllah.
Haj. Rajab, Abdul-Salam, Sami and Yousef, it was a pleasure seeing you all last night and I hope we get to meet again soon :o)

17 comments:

Αρετή Κυρηνεία said...

انشالله ربى يرزقهم الذرية الصالحة ، ويوفقهم فى زواجهم..استمتعت بالوصف ..رغم ان ماما كانت ترى فى الافراح الليبية فى الخارج ناقصة البهارات والتوابل اللازمة زى افراح البلاد...العقبة لاولادك انشالله تفرح بيهم ...مساءك خير مستر انجلو

Luna said...

Good you enjoyed yourself-for its in the gathering of friends that we are given that extra push of willingness of life being beautiful...

Suliman said...

Hey, Brother Anglo! A Libyan "Do", as opposed to a Libyan Don't?

I don't know what "flirting" means to you Brits, but in the US it is not without "intentions," if you know what I mean. We might use "teasing" and "joking" for innocuous interaction, but flirting? I don't know about that.

Anyway, it sounds like Da Brothers had a good time with the Portuguese chicks! I hope you don't mind my cynicism, Anglo, but isn't it odd that even the more Brotherly of the Brothers don't mind letting their beards down and having a little flirt with 'other' women, but they wouldn't even think of taking their own Brotherly females to these Brotherly gatherings? How odd and hypocritical is that? Or maybe they know better! lol lol

I think, the prevalence of "Do as I say, not as I do" is a good measure of the moral health of a society.

may said...

السلام عليكم

الف مبروك ويبدوا انك استمتعت جدا بحفلة الى اولها تخللها ازدحام الطرق

عقبال لما تفرح بصغارك

سيد انجلو رغم كتابتك بلغة الانجليزية لتدويناتك ولكن البصمة العربية والليبية خاصتا موجوده بها وبكثرة

استمتعنا

مى

Anonymous said...

Ditto, on Suliman's comments.
You keep your OWN women covered ,inside houses never allowing them to leave - and you say there was harmless flirting at your marriage ceremony.
I am appalled !!!!!
You LIBYANS are all hypocrites !!!
There should have been male
Libyan servers NOT young Portugese women..........
Oh right , that is a job beneath you Libyan Men !

Anglo-Libyan said...

Αρετή Κυρηνεία Libyans abroad try to keep the same traditions, thanks :o)

Luna, I like what you wrote :o)

Brother Suliman lol
then just call it teasing and joking for it was nothing more :o)

As you know Libyan Fat-ha is a men only event in the same way as Henna party is for women only, then there is the wedding night, some people have a mixed party others choose seperate parties for the men and the women, its a personal preference.

Shukran ya May :o)

Anonymous
are you stupid or what???
its clear that I live in London not Libya and you do not choose the nationality of waiters/waitresses when you hire a place at a hotel!!

obviously you know nothing about Libyans so my advise to you is:

SHUT UP

dusk till dawn said...

salam Anglo-libyan bro nasir

i am so pleased u did have great times and paid ur respect with a smart suit ha ha ,and pleased for u to meet all ur old happy mates, it sound a great happpy day for all. iam sure it brought a big smile on ur face ,take care

on the edge said...

Glade you had a nice time . My experience with Libyan men is that when they dress up ... they dress up and look soooo smart !

I too think it is slightly hypocritical of the more religious men in your group that they were flirting .The non religious ones , well that is different , in that they are acting "normal" in the circumstances .But as Anonymous said concerning the " holy ones" shame on them .They are the ones that make all the trouble and the minute they think no one is watching them they behave in a manner they denounce in others .Sorry , but I find this very bad form on their part .I have met many men like these men , and they are always the very 1st ones to start talking about going to hell when ever anything is HARAM .

abdullah SH said...

mabroook bro & glad u enjoy ur time & seems u had experince in " fat7a " events LOL ,,,,

3o2bal amer inshallah ...

salam ........

ســيف said...

Apart from being stuck in traffic Mr Anglo .

you managed to give a bright description about what was going on the cermoney .

i really enjoyed what i've read

thanx

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